Major Rule No.1 Ask and you shall receive
Today, in the middle of a bookstore a woman turned to me out of the blue and said,”We are accountable for everything in our lives both good and bad.” She told this to me while pointing at a book in the Self-Help section. I went home thinking, “Why did this phrase hit me?” It hit home because I stood still long enough to know that everything and every person that has manifested in my life-I put them/it there. Any struggles, madness and heartache, I put it there! So without coming off too preachy (which if you read any of my other articles is hard to do!) I have devised a simple list to support the next time I prayed to God. You have heard of the biblical phrase-Ask and you shall receive….well, I have a few things to ask.
1. Ask and you shall receive…a fine man with a big wallet (inside and outside his pants!!!)
Yes, I know that there are a lot of people out there that pray for a husband or at least a boyfriend, myself included. And they put a lot of effort too. But let me tell you something…don’t think just cause you asked of God that you will find him in a place of God; that he will magically appear in the church pews. Cause that same “Brother” James could be wheeling and dining “Sister” Jackie and “Sister” LaToya too! And don’t try to turn every man that gives you a smile as the “one”. You know what I mean-you just finished praying to God and then you go outside to get you r mail and the mail man smiles and compliments your petunias and you are all over him; inviting him inside for a cup of coffee and a slice of cake. NO! Don’t do THAT!! ! And girl, if God finally sends you a person who is loving, kind, helps pay for your phone and car insurance and gives you something proper every night! He has you seeing God and crying to all the Saints while he’s at it. And after he is finished and the next day you find bugs crawling up and down you leg and inside your panty doesn’t mean God sent him to you. It means you need to get clearer in your thinking. God meant him to go to the girl right after you – who happens to be a pharmacist! HAHAHA!
2. Ask and you shall receive…your dream job…Lord, Jesus, please a job! The true meaning of a dead end job is where you no longer feel love, peace and challenged (in a good way). God didn’t intend for some people to slave away for 8 to 12 hours and others not to. What if I told you a little secret I discovered about the universe-that the life you create, the life you are living right now, you are accountable for it. You decide the course your life takes. Not the Angels, and not by some fateful design. Only you! And if you ask for assistance of God and his angels they will assist you by showing you signs. These signs could be by way of someone talking to you about what you just prayed to God for the night before or it could be a television show or billboard showing where you could receive assistance. Guidance, my dear comes in many forms. Now that you know that take a look at your surroundings and tell me what is it that you see. Is it a bad job where all your co-workers smile at you freely and then gossip behind your back. Are you in a job where you were offered peanuts and was told that you would get a review and a raise in the coming months, but it never happened? Or were you next in line for a promotion only to be passed over. Look, we have all been there one way or the other. If you can’t grasp the bigger picture, then my friend you are stuck! Remember your employer will never see your inner and outer struggles outside of your job. They will never see you begging help to pay bills or provide your child food and sustenance. All they see is the person you show them for that time frame that they pay you for. So, with that said you always have a choice. McDonald’s doesn’t have to be a dead end job, if that what it takes to feed your family. But, I call it a “step-up” job that is part of process. It’s a job that you take while you are looking for something closer to your dream job. Just like Welfare is a “step-up” process. Society gets angry at those that are on Welfare because Man didn’t intend for you to be on assistance for 10 to 20 years. He intended for you to be creative and look for a stable means to an end. When you are stuck only yourself is accountable. You can move North, East, South and West in your problem. If you are not going in any direction then you have to make a choice. And don’t make just any choice. Get behind your choice and educate yourself before making your choice. But, don’t wait to long…else that will turn into procrastination and that my dear is an entirely different page all together!
3. Ask and you shall receive….Money and lot’s of it, my Father and I need it pronto!!!!
If you have $3.74 in your chequing account and $.17 in your savings account you are accountable for this!!! Some where in the thick of things you made a rites of passage to be broke. But, being broke doesn’t only have to pertain in money. It could also mean that you are broken down in spirit too. Get real with yourself! Where is your money walking off to? Is it to Chanel, Prada or Louis Vuitton? Or is to a shoe sale where you buy a pair for this high price and receive another one for half off? You can play your hand at lottery every week in hopes that you shall win, but isn’t better to play the cards of Life that you’ve been dealt. If you played the hand that was giving to you wrongly ask the universe for another hit! Or at least walk away for the craps table and try your luck at a new game. Remember it is up to you to decide. Once you make up your mind in the direction you would like to go, the universe will support your effort. I know most people will not take the time to evaluate where their money ran off to, but at least try to adjust some of your habits in order to change your circumstances. So, if it means to get a second job so that you can get your Manolo shoes and pay all your other bills on time then so be it! If it means to throw some extra change to a cousin or a sibling to watch your kid you so that you can make an extra dollar then do so. Make it your choice to. Remember you can’t do the same thing all the time and expect something different to happen! Change has to be constant and it could only be initiated by you! Start by asking the universe to lead you to the perfect job, man that you need right now. Trust me, He will answer.
4. Ask and you shall receive…a life without strife! Ya Right!No life is and ever will be perfect. Embrace the odd occurrence of strife because that is the only way you grow. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that you should go looking for a raw deal. No! If your baby daddy is around and is only giving you “survival” money then honey you are accountable for this! In the past you chose him and your situation. And in the now, it is just not gonna be good enough! So make a new choice! And if your baby daddy ain’t around and you still ain’t got no money, you are accountable for this as well. Pick yourself up and do whatever it takes to hustle (And I am not taking about selling your soul or doing something foolish!). Only you know how much you can handle at any given time. But, remember, you are not accountable for his choices. If he CHOSE to not give you money, that is his problem. If he CHOSE not to help his mama that is his problem. If he CHOSE to make face with another girl that is his problem. He is accountable for all those things because somewhere in his screwed up mind he not only thinks he is the Don, but has some very sick reasoning behind all the tricks he pulls. And lest we shall forget, that the main reason you need strife is to remember where you came from and where you are going to. Do you realize when the going gets good that is when you start to forget the friends that you called wailing about Tyrone, you forget the promises you made to Aunt Ida that you would come over every other Saturday night in attempts for her to loan you that $100 bucks, or maybe you forgot to cry, I mean pray to God to deliver you out of this evil and mess! Strife is a humbling experience. And I know you won’t forget it.
5. Understanding parents, family and your own children It’s never gonna happen. I remember going to my white friend’s house and saw how they stamped their foot up and down the stairs and cursed at their parents. While their parents said, “Now dear, let’s analyze why you are angry!” Puleeeze!!!! And then when I went home and try to pull the same stunt even using the same swear words all I got was, actually I don’t remember what I got….I think the repercussions from my parents were so bad that I think I actually blocked them from my memory!!! You are not accountable for the parents you have. But, what you are accountable for is the way in which you perceive them. You will never change your parents into the people you want them to be.
6. Ask and you shall receive….a piece of mind-to achieve a piece of mind, be a peace of mind. And don’t ignore this one cause it’s simple. It really is that simple.
In all seriousness, the God in me moves me to write to you all that He didn’t put you on this earth to suffer, nor did He put you on this Earth to endure people’s judgment of you. He didn’t put you on this Earth for people to steal your joy, nor He did not put you on this Earth for people to cheat, lie, and look down upon you. And I know for a fact that God did not put you on this Earth to make your bed and revel in it. God did put on this Earth to follow His laws, gave us the free will to prosper, gave us the ability to teach one another and inspire. He gave us the ability to dream and gave us the dawning of the each and every single day to carry out his Word and show us the meaning of life. .And to sign off possums -my mother always told me that not only, does the crazy people have the best pills, but you only have three friends in the world-your pocket, God and your front. So, keep your pocket full, pray to God for guidance and take care of your front before it takes care of you!
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